You Get to Feel What You Feel

One of the most profound and profoundly simple things that my teacher said was, "you get to feel what you feel" .
You see, we spend so much energy analyzing, judging, and interpreting our emotions to determine if we should feel that way, or if we're right, or if it's spiritual to feel that way.... but the attention is so tied up in that cycle---which is suffering--- that we don't actually allow ourselves to feel what we actually feel. Instead, we come to some judgment about the feeling.
The great surprise comes when we actually allow ourselves to feel what we feel. So, in a moment of anger, sadness, hurt we directly feel the feeling... and that feeling has something very beautiful inside it. When we actually allow ourselves to feel what is already being felt then the emotion doesn't carry such a charge, it doesn't attach itself to our attention and cause us to spiral into suffering about it.
People often ask me, "what do I do with my anger, jealousy, resentment...and I always say just feel it for a moment. That's what we actually want anyway, that's where our attention is. The emotion has arisen in order to be embraced...not analyzed.
We often believe that what we're feeling must either be right or wrong, that we should feel it or should not feel it. The possibility in each moment is to not move toward any story of right or wrong, but simply allow.
And allow.
And allow.
But this is quite different than justifying the feeling. Rather than feed the story around the feeling you just feel it directly, and then it is taken care of by itself, then it is seen to be Grace.
Allowing what is here to be Here is simple Grace.