Change and Transformation

Change doesn't come about through trying to change, change comes about when whatever is standing between you and the change is let go of.  For many us what stands in the way is our very own effort to transform.  When we attempt to transform or change anything, we automatically set up whatever quality, condition, or circumstance that we are attempting to change as a problem.  All problems will increase in degree simply by our desire to change them.  To include within oneself whatever it is that one is attempting to  change frees the problem from being a problem to get rid of.  The problem simply persists out of our resistance, or unwillingness to experience it.  In a sense  change is impossible until we're no longer wishing for it.
It is a ruthless transformation that unfolds when effort and striving to change have fallen away.  The more that we realize our own powerlessness and inability to change ourselves, the more room we actually allow for real transformation.  Up til now you thought you could do it, but it is only when you realize that you can't do it that real transformation is possible.